4 Commonly Overlooked Ways To Make A Relationship Work

RelationshipAfter some time all connections will endure some high and low focuses. Typically when two individuals first social gathering they are to a great degree glad to associate with each other. Be that as it may, at last there will regularly.

After some time all connections will endure some high and low focuses. Typically when two individuals first social affair they are amazingly cheerful to associate with each other. Be that as it may, at last there will consistently be some harsh times with any relationship. There are 4 essential components in keeping a relationship going in troublesome times, which you can make work for you on the off chance that you need to.

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7 Signs He is Interested

Are you actively flirting with a guy you see frequently but having trouble knowing for sure whether he might want to get together? It can be frustrating not knowing whether he may feel the same way as you do. Wouldn’t it be great to be able to read his mind? While that may not be possible, there are a number of telltale signs that he is probably very interested. Here are 7 of those signs:

Sign #1: He uses your name often when he speaks to you: If he likes you, your name is literally music to his ears and he will want to say it often. It makes him feel good to say your name.

Sign #2: He tends to brush up against or touch you: Those little innocent brushes in the hallway or light touches on the shoulder at your desk are not by accident. They are ways of being closer to you and are a prelude to more intimate physical touching.

Sign #3: He ignores you at odd times: If he is unsure about how you feel about him, he may actually try ignoring you at certain times. He may be nervous about what to say, or he could be afraid that you will catch a glimpse in his eyes of how he really feels about you.

Sign #4: You are good friends but he avoids talking about his love life: If you two are friends but he wants more, he may conspicuously avoid telling you about whom he is dating or he may leave key details out. This is a classic sign that he is trying to protect your feelings and also that he is trying not hamper the possibility of dating you in the future.

Sign #5: He tends to ignore other women when you are around: For example, if there are three attractive women in the room and he is giving you by far the most attention, that is a huge sign that he likes you.

Sign #6: He looks for your reaction first when he tells a joke: If you are in a group situation and he tells what he thinks is a funny joke, he will give his first eye contact after the punch line to the person on whom he has a crush.

Sign #7: His close friends ask you about whom you are dating: Do you find that his friends have asked you about your love life? They may be trying to find out more information and then feeding it back to him so that he can stay informed.

Once you know are fairly sure that he likes you, it is time to take action. Put together a step-by-step plan for getting him to fall for you.

Be Cautious and Steer Clear of Emotionally Unavailable Men

Every woman is aware of the futility of getting involved with a man who is emotionally unavailable. It is clear from the experiences of many women that it is simply impossible to change them; thus the best option is to stay away from them.

After learning of the negatives, you may have taken a decision that it is best to stay away from emotionally unavailable men. Now the question is: how do you differentiate between them and the others? Even though they have qualities (rather vices), which set them apart from others, you will need to be a little observant to make the right differentiation. Of course, once you have identified the ones falling in that category, your job becomes much easier.

Differentiate Between Emotionally Unavailable Men and Available Men

Men who are emotionally unavailable are not introverts and yet they aren’t extroverts. They have a capacity to pull people towards them and yet they do not let them get too close. This mish-mash of closeness and indifference puts your relationship with such a man on a constant roller coaster of highs and lows. It is only a question of time before you give up.

In due course, he will come out in the open and suggest that ‘he wants to keep his options open’. He is basically trying to say that he wants more than you and this is a typical characteristic of an emotionally unavailable man.

One more characteristic of such a man is his emotional volatility and instability. He is hardly aware of what he wants and in his confusion, ends up winding up relationships even with a normal and stable woman like you. A look at his past relationships is a reflection of his inconsistent choices and unstable preferences. No matter how hard you try, you can never change him. Never step into a relationship with such a man thinking that you will change him; it will never happen.

It is every woman’s dream to be the only one for her man. In case of an emotionally unstable man, it is highly unlikely that you will be able to achieve that. Since an emotionally unstable man is not sure of what he really wants, there is a good possibility that even when he has you in his life, he will still be unsatisfied and looking out for other ‘opportunities’.

Initially, everything may seem hunky-dory but as soon as he starts feeling the burden of emotions and stability, he starts whimpering. It is just not in the nature of an emotionally unstable man to be in a stable relationship for long. Period.

It is thus widely established that it is a stupid idea to get involved with an emotionally unstable man. It is certainly more of a risk than anything else. If you spot them beforehand and maintain a good distance, you can ensure that you will not be a pawn in a relationship with such a man.

For those women who are already stuck with such a man, it is best to evaluate his plans and intentions. If you think it is highly impossible to deal with it, you should walk out as soon as possible. However, even if you think it is possible to deal with his whims, carefully evaluate your emotions. If you are compromising too much, you better be aware that it is not worthwhile; such emotionally unavailable men will very often not think twice before walking out on you.

Romantic Love: Is it More than Just Biology?

Some believe that you can influence whether or not one can influence a feeling of love through integrative nutrition?

We teach integrative nutrition at our distance learning school but at the core of all healing instruction is love. Even before  biology

Biological models of love tend to see love as a mammalian drive, just like hunger. Psychology theory defines love as more of a social and cultural phenomenon. There are probably elements of truth in both views — certainly love is influenced by hormones (such as dopamine ), and how people think and behave in love is influenced by their conceptions of love.

The conventional view in biology is that there are two major drives in love – “sexual attraction”  and attachment. Attachment between adults is presumed to work on the same principles that lead an infant to become attached to its mother. The traditional psychological view sees love as being a combination of companionate love and passionate love. Passionate love is intense longing, and is often accompanied by physiological arousal (shortness of breath, rapid heart rate). Companionate love is affection and a feeling of intimacy not accompanied by physiological arousal.

Studies have shown that brain scans of those in infatuated by love display a resemblance to those with a mental illness. Love creates activity in the same area of the brain that hunger, thirst, and drug cravings create activity in. New love, therefore, could possibly be more physical than emotional. Over time, this reaction to love mellows, and different areas of the brain are activated, primarily ones involving long-term commitments.

Love styles

John Alan Lee identified six basic theories that people use in their interpersonal relationships: Eros — a passionate physical love based on physical appearance

Ludus — love is played as a game; love is playful

Storge— an affectionate love that slowly develops, based on similarity.

Pragma— pragmatic love

Mania — highly emotional love; unstable; the stereotype of romantic love

Agape— selfless altruistic love; spiritual

Psychologist Robert Sternberg created a “triangular theory of love and presents the idea that love is a trilogy of three different components: intimacy, commitment, and passion.

• Intimacy is a form by which two people can share secrets and various details of their personal lives. Intimacy is usually shown in friendships and romantic love affairs.

• Commitment, on the other hand, is the expectation that the relationship is going to last forever. The last and most common form of love is

• Passion: This the most common of the three and is usually expressed as sexual attraction and passion. Passionate love is shown in infatuation as well as romantic love.

In the end the ability to love authentically is the path to greater freedom, happiness and abundance.

11 Ways to Deal with the Negative People Around You

Negative PeopleNegative people are everywhere. You cannot expect everyone to have the kind of positive outlook in life and attitude as you do. They just come out and then start ruining your life. Although some aren’t aware that they have negative personalities, others meanwhile are purely mean and awful. One unfortunate thing about negative people is that you can never avoid them. In fact, they are all around you. So the best thing for you to do is to try not to avoid them, instead find ways to deal with them.

One common trait for this kind of individuals is that they love to mess up a good and positive conversation. They either love or superficially don’t understand that they are making other people around them depressed and disappointed.  While you may want to completely get out of their way, it simply isn’t possible especially when most of them are close to you, like for instance, your relative, friend, roommate, neighbor, or officemate. Thus, the best remedy for you is to learn these 11 ways to deal with negative people around you.

Determining the Cause

People who have negative personalities are not born that way. They develop this kind of attitude because of a certain cause. So if you want to know how to properly deal with them, you must understand, dig deep, and find out what caused them to transform. Is it because of a recent problem or issue, an abusive past, or perhaps a behavioral disorder? You have to learn from them in order to deal with them.

Opposite Poles Attract

Negative people are seen that way because they always attract or go near the opposite minded individuals. If you are a happy, contented, and generally good attitude person, then you are likely to become a subject of interest by negative people. In order to deal with them the right way, you must not go down to their level. Always maintain a positive vibe and attitude and don’t push them!

Try Hard Not to Argue

People who are so negative when it comes to how they see others are very good at what they do, and that is to frustrate, disappoint, and put others on the brink of emotionally heating up. If you’re on the positive side, never push for an argument because no matter how valid yours is, they will always win. Remember that they want you to be angry and depressed. By the time they realize that their negative attitude annoys you, they will be relentless.

Show Empathy

One of the most hated actions by negative people is when others tell them what to do. If you come upon a conversation with one, do not assert yourself. What’s wiser is to show empathy especially when they begin to express emotion like anger, hatred, loneliness, pessimism, and other downbeat feelings. You might want to go with the flow and show them that you provide support. Just make sure you don’t show support by scolding. By the time you are able to enter their feelings, they will be able enough to face and solve their own issues.

Be There to Help

People who view their lives as unconstructive are usually emotionally disturbed. The reasons may vary but one thing is for sure – they need help. However, it’s quite hard to lend your hand since they may likely view it negatively. So you have to devise an approach plan of offering help. One that is kind enough for them to accommodate.

Avoid Provocation

Provocative action is the main trigger factor of negative people. When you show them even the slightest glimpse of provocation (though you may view it as more like a joke or humor), they will certainly react to it. So if you enter into a conversation with a negative person, avoid aggravation and stick to certain topics that will not light any fire.

Ignoring Can Be Helpful

We always view tolerance and ignoring some actions as a negative attitude. But when it comes to unenthusiastic people, the best formula for a conversation is to heed their negative comments and then forget them. In simple terms, don’t be affected by them. If you cannot control yourself, you can start a senseless argument.

Appreciation is Key

Bear in mind that negative people do not only view others negatively. They also see themselves as disappointing and unsatisfactory. As a result, they always bring that to themselves and the consequence would be the further alleviation of an emotional problem. If you a member of the family or a close friend is so negative about himself/herself, you must be able to look and find some things that are positive within them. Learn to appreciate the optimistic things they do. Recognize them and praise them for that. This way, you’re helping them build self-confidence, which is relatively absent as of the moment.

Be With a Crowd

When you and the negative person are stuck in conversation with a crowd, there’s a good chance that he/she deviates from talking negatively. However, you should also be reminded that anyone on the group can be targeted by rude and mean comments. Nonetheless, keeping him/her in the company of a crowd makes him feel sociable and likeable to other people.

Watch How You React

The way you react to negative and unhelpful comments may make or break an individual who has a very negative attitude. If you see a friend cursing herself, you don’t have to curse him more. If your mom scolds you for nothing, be calm and don’t react violently. Most of the time, bad arguments are spurred by negative people who find pleasure in seeing others react they way they want them to.

If All Else Fails, Find an Exit

Living or being near with someone who’s very negative is depressing and stressful. However, this doesn’t mean that you avoid them the minute you see some signs. What you need to do is try to help them, especially when they mean something to you or perhaps they are part of the family. Nonetheless, if all else fails and you think you’ve done enough to provide support, it’s practical to avoid them as much as you can.