When you don’t get along with your Dating Site Date’s Friends

I have a friend who is in a fairly new relationship…less than one year old.  She and her boyfriend met on a dating site and are very happy with the way things have evolved.  They seem to have worked through the hard stuff, and evidently things between them have been smooth sailing for the past few months.

There is one hitch, however. He has introduced her to several of his friends, and though she is a very open-minded gal, she doesn’t really care too much for these people.  It’s not a huge problem.  Her boyfriend has two couples that he is very close with and from time to time they do “couple” things together.  Mostly this includes getting together for dinner or meeting for a drink or two.  But my girlfriend doesn’t have much in common with the women and though they have extended their wishes in getting together with her without her boyfriend, she would rather not do so.

Does this make her a snob?  Not at all.  She simply feels as though she doesn’t share a lot of commonalities and feels she and these women don’t have much to talk about.  She’d rather spend her free time with her own group of friends.  So what happens when you don’t care for the friends of your dating site partner?  Is it the end of the world? It doesn’t have to be.

Compromise is everything in a relationship and compromise must be met in this particular scenario.  If you don’t have much in common with the friends of your partner, there is no need for you to hang out with them.  On the other hand, you cannot resent the time he wants to spend with his friends.  If you are able to enjoy activities as a couple with another couple, that is great.  There is no reason why you need to become best friends with the wife of his best friend.  Compromise is made when you agree to spend a certain amount of time with his friends as a couple.

If your partner is understanding, he won’t press matters.  After all, you don’t expect him to become best friends with the people in your life, do you?  That is what keeps a relationship interesting.  If you have your friends and he has his, the two of you can remain autonomous and do your own thing.  There should be a certain amount of independence between two people in a relationship.  You don’t have to share everything, you know.  If he is offended that you’d rather not spend alone time with his female friends, explain to him that you have nothing in common with them, but you’re willing to get together every now and then for social interactions among the couples.

My friend explained these things to her boyfriend and luckily they see eye to eye on this subject.  They each have their own individual interests and agree that this makes the time they spend together more special and alluring.  When his friends invite them over for a barbeque or cocktails, she is more than willing to go.  She just doesn’t want to spend the day shopping with a woman she has nothing in common with.  And she doesn’t have to.  Neither do you.

Tips For Dating Thai Women

So many western men visit Thailand every year in search of a Thai life partner. Thanks to Thai dating websites it makes it much easier for western men to befriend Thai Women without having to come to Thailand. Using dating websites, western men seek to find Thai wives. One of the top tier dating websites is ThaiSingles.net. Every day, many western men register on this website and find Thai women for dating and marriage. But to pursue a Thai woman for marriage is not always easy. If you have been chatting a Thai woman online for some time and the time has come to finally meet her in person, we have some tips on how you can make a good first impression.

Be Punctual

Make sure to be on time. If you arrive late, this definitely makes a negative impression of you. You want to show her that her time is important and you care enough to meet on time and not make her wait for you. Being punctual is paramount. If you are going to pick her from her place, then reach try to arrive 5-10 minutes before the decided time.

Give Her Compliments

Every woman likes to get complimented. You should give her a compliment before you ask her any formal question. Complimenting her will create a ground for a pleasant day out with her. But, make sure, your compliment is sincere and mindful. Simple words such as “Your beautiful” or “I like your dress”, can have a positive impact. Also, you shouldn’t do too much of compliments as it will make her feel that your compliments are fake.

Present A Thoughtful Gift To Her

A Thai woman feels special when a man gives her a gift. To decide upon gift, a man should try to know something about the woman. Before meeting in person, you must have contacted the woman several times on phone, video-chat, messenger, e-mail, or phone. From your conversations, you should know what she likes. Knowing what she likes can help you decide what type is appropriate for her.

Let Her Speak More

Thai Women are considered shy. They generally like to be silent. It doesn’t mean that they don’t like to talk at all. They take time to open up and their English might not be good. Be patient and try to learn a few Thai words. This will go a long way in impressing her. Try not to talk too much about yourself and show her that you are interested in her.

Playing the Field

Every so often, there are some natural phenomenon’s that occur that change the cycle of things.  Not quite sure of what is going on, I do notice that I no longer see “5, 7, 9” stores, I can actually find sexy bra’s in my size, and this curvy, sexy Goddess has had her little black book become quite large in the past few years.  As my little black book grew, the length in my days didn’t and in a matter of weeks, I went from being a “single girl, dating” to a “weather girl” (remember the hit song “It’s Raining Men”?).  Quickly I had to learn the art of managing this man monsoon, because the more men that asked me out, the sexier I felt and the more confidence I radiated, which led to…..yep, you guessed it!!! More dates!  Because I am a control freak, and somewhat of a planner, I sat down and assessed the situation.  I made a “pro’s and con’s” list.  The pro’s far outweighed the con’s.  Who would not choose this incredible sexy energy I got, along with the great boost in confidence, the opportunity to meet a wide scope of men, the perfect dates for all of the things I like to do (that’s correct, I did not have to take a baseball fan to the opera!), and some potentially good sex partners?  The only con’s that I could really come up with were my friends reactions.  One of them asked me if I “was serious about becoming a slut?”.  Another said that I was “only missing my chance to meet Mr. Right”.  Too bad.  My decision was made, and over the course of the last few years, I have dated a slew of studs, a few duds, and some romantic Romeo’s.  I am going to share with you just how you can take your dating from the minor leagues and swing your bat so that you, too, can play the field, with me in the All-Star game.

KNOW WHAT YOU WANT

The most important thing in playing the field is knowing what you want.  How many men do you think you want to date?  For some girls it is two or three men, already known to them, just to weed out the better of her suitors.  Others, like me, just go with the flow, realizing that as new men come into your life, old men fall out of it, and keeping a constant rotation optimizes on the “fun factor”.  What kind of men are you looking for?  If you are set in your way, and know that Monday’s you bowl, Tuesday’s you eat at your favorite place, etc., then chances are you are not looking for a variety in your men.  You want someone that is pretty similar to you, and your choices in men will be the same. It is safe to bet that most of your men will have common traits.  On the other hand, if you like doing a lot of different things, then maybe finding a bigger slice of the man pie may be a better idea for you.  Go for it! That is the whole point! Date that artist Monday.  Go out with that suit-wearing stock broker on Tuesday!  It is your world, Goddess!  Another thing you need to know in playing the field is what do you want to get out of it?  Are you looking for Mr. Right?  Do you want to just have fun?  Maybe you just like a very active social calendar.  Whatever the reason, as long as you know why you are doing it, make it work for you, not for anyone else.  Know what you want, and then, like the Goddess you are, go get it, wait, no.  Go get them!

KEEP IT REAL

You are a Goddess, and part of being such is being real.  This comes into play while juggling your men too.  You cannot expect to have this work at all if you cannot be honest with the men you date.  Listen closely, ladies.  What I am saying here is never let any man think that you and he are exclusive.  That is it.  Don’t ever give out all of the juicy details.  Your All-Star roster should remain as private as your medical records.  If you find that you have a brunch with Joe Saturday morning, and dinner with Steve that night (which is perfectly fine!) the last thing you want to do is meet Steve and tell him all about that brunch with Joe, but if asked you can simply say you had brunch with a friend.  See where I am going with this?  Keep in mind, with all of this male attention, you will be seeping a sexual energy that will make even the most flaccid man sniff you out in a crowd.  It’s inevitable that at one point a suitor will approach you with the offer to become exclusive.  Because you have been honest all along, all you simply have to say is “I am not ready for a monogamous relationship right now”.  (If you are, I will explain that a bit more into this)  On the flip-side, you might have the suitor who also “plays the field” and in his harem, he has found the woman that he decides to get serious with, and it is not you.  Gracefully wish him nothing but the best, and mark that number off as a “do not call”.  And really mean it!  Goddesses that play the field cannot be the jealous type.

TO SEX, OR NOT TO SEX

Imagine how much sex appeal you are throwing around, with all of these men wanting to spend time with you.  Your confidence is soaring, and opportunity is constantly there.  So, now what do you do when you are faced with the big question “Do I sleep with him?”  It is simple.  As long as you have condoms, and you want it, go for it.  It could be the best sex of your life, but you won’t know until you do it.  Now, it gets tricky when more than one of your guys wants to get busy.  But here is where your discretion and safe sex make all of the difference.  How many one night stands have you had, and said afterwards “Damn, I wish I did that more often”.  Usually, it’s because it’s something different than what you are used to.  In playing the field you are putting yourself in the center of a sexual perfect storm.  Already knowing the men you could potentially bed, you up your variety, or should I say spice factor tenfold, and could launch your sex life from ow to WOW like that! (I snapped my fingers!)  One huge benefit, when you do meet Mr. Right, you will have that little bag tricks you learned from your days of being a “player” and trust me ladies, he will worship you in the boudoir!

TIME TO SAY GOODBYE

Chances are, in dating multiple men, in time you will find the one that you think may be someone that you could exclusively date.  It is not an easy thing to do, but at this point you need to have your exit strategy in place.  And because you kept it real, this is going to be cake.  There should be no need for one last date with any of the studs in your stable.  A phone call is enough.  “I have met someone that I have decided to date exclusively” is all you have to say.  Most of the men will really respect the call, and wish you well.  Just make sure you really let all of them know that you are now unavailable, and in an exclusive relationship.  As any great woman with a “past” (it sounds so sexy, right?) you may get an occasional call or seven from some of the guys in your big black book (it really does get pretty big!).  As tempting as it could be, make sure you let them know that you are off the market.  After all, if your goal in juggling all of these men was to maximize on your time to find Mr. Right, and you think you found him, the last thing you want to do is put sugar in the gas tank of your lovemobile!

As with anything, playing the field is something that takes at least a little practice to master.  If you follow the few tips above, and take cues from your inner Goddess, in no time you will be able to perfect the art of juggling multiple men.  Remember, playing the field is the best way to narrow the playing field.  Keep your game up, and keep it about you.  When our mothers were young, this is how they held court.  There was no “dating” as we knew it.  They “kept their options open”.  Not that I am an anthropologist or a sociologist, but considering that the divorce rate has skyrocketed in our generation, maybe they were on to something.  It could be that they did not settle, they knew what they wanted, or they got to sow some form of wild oats, who knows.  What I do know is that after dating literally hundreds of men, this Goddess has found her Mr. Right, and if I had not dated all of the Mr. Wrong’s, and Mr. Almost’s, I never would have known what I was looking for, and what I had when I found it.  He knows and loves my All-Star past, especially because we hit a grand-slam home run in making “us” part of our future.

Emily Post On Wedding Etiquette

Emily Post is the well known Miss Manners on Wedding Etiquette. But there are many Wedding Etiquette specialists these days that followed Ms. Emily Post’s footstep and became Miss Manners themselves. If you are getting married anytime soon and you want to know some tips from Miss Manners on Wedding Etiquette, here are some Wedding Etiquette basics for you, the blushing bride.

* On Wedding Dress

Miss Manners says Wedding Etiquette of our age is not very strict anymore. Today, Miss Manners allows brides to wear non-conventional color for a wedding gown. Aside from ultra white, creme, and beige, Miss Manners says that it is not against Wedding Etiquette to wear pastel colored wedding gown, especially if the wedding is a Destination Wedding. For a beach wedding, brides can now wear turquoise or aquamarine colored wedding dress to match the color of the dress with the aqua-blue freshness of the sea waters.

* On Wedding Shoes

Miss Manners says Wedding Etiquette allows brides to wear open toed and ankle strap wedding shoes. According to the modern Miss Manners too, white is not anymore the basic color for wedding shoes. You can go with beige, creme, ivory or even red to match an ultra white wedding gown.

Miss Manners says that shoes should be comfortable and stylish. Rhinestones are good and does not defy Wedding Etiquette. But for the sake of taste, Miss Manners recommends that brides should go for less ornamented shoes.

* On Announcing the Engagement

Miss Manners says that first time brides may announce their engagement in newspapers or if they have the fortune to host an engagement ball, then they can announce the engagement in the said party. If you do not have the money to throw an engagement party, Miss Manners says that you can announce your engagement to close family and friends during a dinner.

For second wedding, Miss Manners recommend to brides with second marriage to talk to their children first before making the public announcement. Then the next person that they should talk to is their parents before the ex-spouse. Miss Manners says that a bride, who does not have any child from her ex-spouse, fails to tell her ex about her engagement does not violate a Wedding Etiquette. According to Miss Manners, the bride have no obligation to her ex-spouse unless they have a children of which they have joint custody.

* On Who to Invite

Miss Manners says that it is the bride and the groom and the host (in case the parents will co-host the wedding) has the say on who are or who are not to invite. But the last say, for Wedding Etiquette’s sake, is always upon the lips of the bride and the groom since it is their big day and it is them who are the center of attention.

If the bride or the groom don’t prefer to invite an ex-boyfriend who is one of the best employee of the bride’s father, then the bride’s father cannot command her daughter to invite the old flame even if it is the bride’s father who have hosted the wedding.

Are You Feeling Trapped In Your Relationship

It would seem that along with an income, a place to live and food to eat, relationships are a necessary part of life. Humans are social beings who need companionship, though there are the few, as always, who appear to defy this need. That aside, humans, for the most part, need companionship that would allow them a best friend who will love and support them, just as they need to support and love their partner. Without this, life can seem long, boring, lonely and purposeless. This is not to say that everyone in a relationship is completely happy with it. In fact, there are some people out there who feel they are trapped in their relationship.

There are many reasons why a relationship would not work out. It is common knowledge that many relationships will end due to boredom, infidelity, loss of interest or conflict, but feeling trapped is often not listed. There are a number of reasons why a person may feel so trapped in a relationship that they refuse to leave it and try to make it work despite their feelings. They may worry about hurting their partner by telling them they are no longer interested in remaining in the relationship, feel that if they leave this relationship they will be unsuccessful in finding another one, feel they arent good enough to find someone else, or they may even feel that staying will avoid a threatening situation because they are possibly in an abusive and/or possessive relationship they are afraid to leave. Regardless of the reason one might feel trapped in a relationship, it is not they way someone should feel. While good, strong and healthy relationships do take some effort and work, feeling trapped is a sign that something is wrong. The next step is to figure out why one might be feeling trapped. Once the possible reason has been realized, appropriate action can be taken to deal with the trapped feeling.

It is not always easy for someone to figure out why they might be feeling trapped in a relationship, and even more difficult to figure out how to handle their situation properly. Consulting a counselor or a therapist is usually a good idea when dealing with difficulties in a relationship, especially if one would like to clear their thoughts before bringing it to the attention of their partner. For those who are not comfortable with seeing a counselor or therapist in person, they can easily contact and online counselor from their home computer as long as they have an internet connection. Online therapy is fast becoming the primary choice for many looking for some helpful advice because of how accessible it is. All one has to do is go online, open a browser and search for online counseling. There are many sites and online therapists who are offering their help online so that more people can get the help they need without feeling too uncomfortable. Online therapy is not only convenient, but confidential and successful as well.

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