It is not easy to save a relationship. You’re hurt, heartbroken, lost and don’t know what to do. Every one of your friends has a different idea about what you can do to get back together. But no matter what you read or hear, there is always the fear that one wrong move will cause you to lose the person you love forever.
Is this you?
-Every song on the radio makes you cry
-Loss of appetite
-Binge eating comfort food
-Calling them several times a day
-Texting and emailing constantly
-Constantly checking email and voice mail to see if they called
-Staying home so you don’t miss a call
-Obsessing about why they REALLY left you
-Wanting to spy on them
-Endlessly rehearsing what you should have said
-Endlessly rehearsing what you will say if you bump into them
This is where it gets tough… Often times, the thing that feels “most right” is just the opposite: The most WRONG thing to do.
If you’re dying to call, step away from the phone.
If you feel like pouring your heart out, stay quiet.
This may seem completely wrong. BUT, they have been proven over and over to actually help revive even a seemingly hopeless relationship.
FIRST You MUST accept that the two of you have broken up. I’ve been there and I know this can be very difficult to do. Trust me, you will likely have a bit of an internal battle before you’re able to do this because you fear accepting the break up makes it permanent. This is not true!
The primary reason you must accept the breakup is to give your ex time and a little space to miss you. They may even be mad or upset with you at this very moment… especially if you’ve been pressuring them to get back together.
NEXT: Cut off all communication. And I mean ALL communication.
I know you’re thinking I’ve lost my mind right now, but hold on because this technique really does work. It not only helps you accept the breakup but also shows your ex you are completely OK with the break up.
Now they can become curious or interested just to know what’s going on. They also have time to get over their reason for breaking up with you.
This space can also be very invigorating when it comes to your own mental health. Not only will it help you think clearly, but cutting off ALL communication also sets you up for the next step.
Finally, plan a meaningul event where you can reconnect with your ex. This may center around something that brings back memories OR it may be something the two of you always wanted to do.
The point is, get together and then over time you may actually fall in love again and live happily ever after!